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No, don’t worry. I’m not going to advise you to throw a First Period Party for your daughter. I can only imagine the sheer horror that my daughter would greet this suggestion. It is probably up there with ‘Mum-dancing with my guidance teacher at the school disco in an effort to get all the kids to dance’ on the 1 – 100 scale of embarrassment.
Talking to kids about sex is an important part of parenting, and a part of this is talking to girls about getting their first period. One of the best ways to help your daughter prepare, is to make a First Period Kit.
Why Make a First Period Kit?
It can be a good conversation starter. Pick a time when no other siblings are around, and you have time to devote to your daughter, and start a conversation.
It also ensures that she has everything she needs in advance of getting her first period. If she starts her period when you are not there, she won’t have to worry about finding sanitary products. Lots of girls would feel uncomfortable talking to their grandparents or a babysitter about their periods.
She can also take a small bag to school, or on school trips, just in case.
What to Put In a First Period Kit?
There are companies who sell packages, such as Period Box, or you can put together your own, taking your daughter’s likes and preferences into consideration.
You may have a preferred brand of sanitary protection, that you would recommend to her – but do allow her to try other brands. Just because one brand suits you, doesn’t mean she’ll feel the same.
Include both sanitary towels and tampons – she may not feel comfortable with tampons initially, but for swimming and school sport, they will be needed.
With puberty and periods, come pimples. Even if she doesn’t get zits now, with the hormones going a bit crazy, she might find her skin breaks out. My daughter really likes the Green People Yo! skin care range, particularly the cleanser, make-up remover and moisturiser cream.
Lots of girls feel self-conscious when they have their period, so include a funky body spray, or a Lush soap. I recently bought my daughter the Relaxing Lavender spray from Botanics at Boots, and she loves it. You can be creative here – include some little treats that you know she’ll love
You can’t go wrong with a cosy hot water bottle – this one has a cover that was crocheted by a wonderful friend.
A small make up bag, for taking san pro to school. Include a spare pair of pants, in case of leakage, and a couple of little disposal bags. She may never need them, but knowing she’s got them with her just in case will give her peace of mind.
A packet of her favourite treats!
And finally … a badge that she can wear when she’s feeling hormonal.
A Word to Dads
Ok, I get it – a lot of guys find it a bit embarrassing to talk about periods. Maybe you don’t know much about menstruation, or you’d rather your partner/wife dealt with such ‘womanly things’. I mean it kindly when I say ‘Get over it!’.
Research online or ask a woman in your life to help you understand what your daughter will be going through. Don’t be one of those guys who says things like, ‘Why can’t women just hold it in until they go to the loo?’ or ‘How many pads do you need in a month anyway? Like 7 or 8?’ There’s absolutely no excuse for being unknowledgeable.
Be the dad whose teenage daughter can ask to bring home some san pro when he goes to the supermarket. Be the dad who is understanding when their daughter is grumpy, and who will bring her a hot water bottle. Be the dad who shows his sons that girls and women having their period is totally normal and nothing to be ashamed about, or to ridicule. But also be the dad who is ok with her not wanting to talk to you.